motss stands for Members Of The Same Sex, a name chosen because it was thought if gay or lesbian appeared in the name many sites wouldn't carry the group.
soc.motss is now a FaceBook group and is still alive and well. Among other things, every year we have a con somewhere where some of us get to meet others face-to-face. This year it was in Portland, ME and it was con XXVII.
Getting involved with soc.motss changed our lives. Most of my friends are either people I met via soc.motss or via contra dancing - and we were introduced to contra dancing by soc.motss people.