She lived alone in her manhattan apartment, walked with canes or a walker, and used Access-A-Ride (MTA van by appointment) to go distances of more than several blocks which she did a few times a week. Her apartment building had a nice garden between the two buildings and she hung around there a lot in good weather talking to friends.
She played Duplicate regularly and had played just a day or so before her last episode. I chose to hold her memorial service a few months later at the Manhattan Bridge Club, which was her regular place to play. I'd asked her how she wanted to handle this - she didn't want it in a temple, and when I suggested the bridge club she thought that was a great idea and the owner/director was fine with it.
She was a fine lady, a good mother and wife, and I really miss her.
These are a few things I talked about at the service.
Hobbies and Interests
Reading (Pride and Prejudice, mysteries, short stories, and the New York Times)
English History and Literature
The last few years
Independence and mobility
the league, bridge club, garden and lobby at 30 West 60th St.
always managed to go to the hairdresser by self (walker, … cane, occasionally taxi)
reading, silly TV, and crossword puzzles
telephone to friends and me
The infirmities of age: arthritis, broken hip and finally: heart valve
A few other characterizations
a proper lady - dressing “right”
a sense of humor (silliness especially)
stubborn, outspoken and forthright
a sense of what was right and what was fair
indignant if thought not treated well or fairly
took care of own health and diet
an excellent memory for events through her whole life
cooking, machinery and the vacuum cleaner
The bit about the vacuum cleaner is that she thought it was too complicated to operate so she never did. She did know how to use a sewing machine. She learned how to cook while I was a teenager (I helped teach her) - she was brought up in a home with servants and until I went off to MIT we always had them.